Thirty and a Half.
Another St. Patrick’s Day has passed, which means another reminder that I’m about halfway to my next birthday. Last year I was rather apprehensive about turning 30, but also hopeful for the future and the opportunities that my situation at the time presented me with. A year later, I’ve reached what I had resolved for myself as I am entirely off of diabetes meds and am so far maintaining a fairly healthy lifestyle. ( Yeah, you’re probably sick of hearing about it by now.) It’s feeling more and more like March 17th is my day to make resolutions, as opposed to doing it on New Year’s Day. My following through on my resolution could very well have been a fluke, but I guess it couldn’t hurt to try it again.
This past year, I had been focusing so much on my health that my financial well being and planning for the future may have been put on hold — and ultimately, my married life is being put on hold as well. I’ve rarely mentioned the important fact that I have been engaged to be married for a little over 6 months now. I think now is the time for me to focus on that and actually take action in getting married and planning for our future together.
Where women dream of planning and going through with an extravagant and/or elaborate wedding, it’s something that I’d rather not do. I honestly am too practical to think of spending so much money on a “party.” Hunny shares my simple tastes and is looking for something non-extravagant as well. Everyone always asks me when our wedding date is, and I say in a joking tone, “Oh, we’re just going to elope when we feel like it.” It turns out that we haven’t planned anything — NOTHING at all. We do have some unique situations hindering us right now, which I have to resolve…to resolve. What I have drill into my mind right now is that being married is not just going to happen just like that. All kinds of planning need to be done, whether it be our small wedding or our roadmap for our life afterward. Getting engaged was something that happened just like that, but turns out getting married will not happen just like that, at least it shouldn’t.
I probably won’t be married by the time I’m 31, but hopefully I’ll have a REAL answer when I’m asked that question of “When you getting married?”
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Aloha Terri,
I hope you remember me from UH, I graduated from the MIS Program there in 2006 and you use to help me with some of those technincal classes in the program from Mr. Kazman and so forth! The reason I am posting is just to say Hi and to respond to your post. It was a very intresting 3/17/10 i was working and never even thought of the occassion. However I was more intrested in the other half of your post. I hope things get better with what you are going through….and big congrats on being engaged. Planning a wedding is tough…Im helping my brother and his girlfriend plan theres it takes alot of time and effort and if you can set a side just an hour a week and focus on your wedding you can do it. I have set a check list for them to follow and I have been telling them the first key to planning a wedding is your BUDGET…If you know what you can afford then you know what you can attain…If you dont have the funds for the fairy tale wedding then simplfy and you can still have the wedding you always dreamed of….well Im following you on Twitter too. I just joined so I hope its worth my time on that site…PEACE…LOVE…AND ALOHA…